The fragility of trust

Trust is a very fragile virtue. Like milk, once it is split, it is difficult to gather. 

People need to determine what is informing their thinking before they embark on behavior that is perceived to be agonizing, cantankerous, suspicious, incoherent and untrustworthy by others. The truth of your untrustworthy actions always comes out and when it does, you must be willing to face whatever consequences that arise.

Trust takes years to build but just an instant to destroy. Being mindful of this, we must always remember that in all our daily interactions with other members of the human race, we are dealing with the intangibles like honesty, credibility, character, consistency, integrity  and sincerity. These intangibles are the unwritten rules of society that govern us. Often, when you do not play by these implied rules, word spreads around and you end up with a bad reputation.

Reputational risk is bad for your social and particularly business interactions and once your risk profile is ingrained in the hearts and minds of people, you would have lost your credibility.

People know when there is sincerity within another. It does not matter how much a person hugs and smiles at others, when there is no sincerity, people see it for what it is, a smokescreen and that the love the insincere is purporting to be giving out is not there to give in the first place.

There is really no point in exuding love through speech when immediately after your back is turned you do the opposite. Human beings are clever mammals. When their is no harmony between what is said and what is done, they always believe the behavior ; what is done. When you are consistently unreliable and not dependable, that is exactly who you are. That is where you live, in untrustworthy land. It is a choice you would have made.

May I please be allowed to repeat once more again ; trust is a very fragile virtue. When it is scattered, like broken china, it is virtually impossible to piece it back together. 

I rest my case.